Friday, March 16, 2012

Marriage and Facebook!!

Facebook is now a common thing in our life. Thanks to Mark Zuckerberg, he has been able to add a new spice to the routine recipe of our life i.e. Facebooking… Many of my friends are now in their mid-20s and as our Indian society says, it is the ripe age to get married. Same has been happening too. Many of my friends have got married recently or are about to and their facebook profiles have got sudden changes which have not been seen since they have been active on this social platform. The changes are noticeable well-in advance of their actual marriage itinerary. Few days before engagement and marriage, we can see our friends’ (boys and gals…) status being updated like below- - Bakra halal hone wala hai - Bechara shaheed hone wala/wali hai - 7 days to go, 6 days to go (Seems he/she is going to be launched to space) - Awaiting a new phase of life - Missing you so much… - Oh my jaanu….jhappi palo saanu!( lol) Hilarious enough, and friends are happily liking and commenting on these status like- - Beta,. Bhag le nai toh saari umar pachtayega - Yeh toh gaya - Ab phasa saala - Tera number bhi lag gaya - Doston ko na bhul jaiyo - I am so happy for you You will notice a sudden increase in the number of friends in your friend’s profile during their marriage days. There will be all sorts of friend requests from in-laws, relatives, fiancĂ©e’s friends, brothers, sisters, cousins and blah blah. Your good gonna-be-hooked friend will start getting confused between this whole new junta in his/her profile and has to make some separate lists to for all these gonna-be-family members. People now prefer to make a facebook event of their marriage and invite people over there only., thereby decreasing the all kharcha of getting new wedding cards published and sending them over( Nice idea for cost-cutting) Now, as marriage happens, new photo albums titled engagement, sangeet, pre-marriage preps, marriage day, doli, new home, Honeymoon etc etc. get uploaded on facebook . Special attention is given to those pics which are clicked by photographer at a separate photo session on the engagement/marriage day. Your new groom/bride friend has to keep his and in-laws family on priority while putting these pics, so that all come in balanced numbers and the relatives, especially in-laws get their due respect Girls feel a new pride while changing their surname to match with their husband’s surname. Some girls with a I-want-independence attitude will never change their surname, giving bad signs to husband that he has to remain under her control. Bad days for husbands ahead! I have read this joke somewhere – Husband was having his first night after marriage and he was updating his facebook status . First update- ghunghat utha raha hu, 2nd update- aaj who zyada haseen hai ya chand??…Friends start commenting now--- beta laga reh, keep updating every moment whole night, we are enjoying..;) Thus, facebook has come as a new way to promote your life socially after marriage. After marriage life, photos for events like first festivals after marriage(diwali, holi and karwa chauth..mostly), babies, their schooling etc. and couples pulling their leg by commenting on each other on their walls are going to become a common thing. And, it's not a harm to do so. As our lives are becoming so busy ahead that we forget to keep in touch with ourselves and our dear friends, we can still see these updates, photos someday or the other and laugh them out as good memories!

Thursday, January 12, 2012

Ghunghat or Tight jeans??

Should girls wear small clothes? Should girl go away and dress up with traditional ghunghat on face? What should girls do to save their morality? These questions always make many people to have a thought when girls' morality, their safety, their social value comes under question and the only major culprit who is always taken into custody is man and in 90% of the cases, its true. But what's all happening is really correct? Men have this natural ability to get attracted towards a lady who has wore a gaudy dress, has a lustful walk etc. That Girl also knows that she is getting attention and to grab more of that pie, she will keep making herself look as attractive as possible. Girls do all this- may be in the name of social and personal freedom but the motive may be only to grab attention. It is justified that everyone likes to seek some attention but doing anything to get a lustful attraction of men is always dangerous for her. So, she must think to dress up sensibly before going out. Men, on their part, should control their instincts towards a girl. Giving attention and getting attracted to someone have their limits but crossing the line to molest that girl will ultimately put whole men community in question. City Police or any moral brigade can't control these day-to-day issues as they can't monitor every girl on the road.So, it is the duty to whole aam junta there to have situation under control India is a confused country. The country boasts of beautiful nude statues, sculptures at Ajanta, Khjuraho, its science of Kamasutra etc. but advocates to have girl to cover herself properly. We have been listening all social guidelines in media where some unknown personalities guide us with same rules. But can they justify out Kamasutra laden past then? Becoming a preacher and dictating those rules is always easy but to provide a solution to this confusion is very difficult job. Ultimately, its all a duty of he and she of India to do everything in limit keeping a good balance and respect for Indian as well as Western Culture.

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

Plan A...or Plan B??

We have always been following a simple theory in life- Have a Plan, work for it and achieve it. But sometimes, we are not having surety of completion of that Plan when we may encounter chaos/complications/problems/hard situations etc. And at that time, a so called ‘Plan B’ becomes handy and has to be worked out. God may have followed same when he created women first as Plan A but then has to create men along as Plan B to counteract blown up issues of Plan A aka Women ;) I have also followed the same adage, made Plan A every time but seldom achieved it due to my inefficiency, fable spirit to work hard and all other excuses etc. I had thoughts of Plan B too but here is the catch…before I had my Plan B , my destiny already had its another Plan B. and before giving me a chance to execute mine, the destiny had already moved and made its Plan B active. Today, whatever I am is due to this Plan B of destiny. This also supports the fact that whatever happens, happens for good and it is worth believing. I am not sitting with a silver spoon given by destiny but yes, destiny has shown me it’s Plan and I have always worked to keep polishing myself and work harder on that Plan and as a result, I keep getting rewards. Today, if you see any of my friends earning good(7 digit annual salary), studying in good institutes(IIMs, IITs) , they are all eating fruits of their Plan A’ success but I am eating fruits of destiny’s Plan B and I owe to make this success continue.. I hope that this Plan B of destiny and my Plan A will equate someday..